When it comes to fearful flyers, we all one just one thing.
​
To be normal when it comes to flying. To get up on the morning of the flight, without a thought, grab our bags and head out to the airport, so we can go where we want to go.
​
Instead? Weeks of anxiety, followed by hours of panic on the day, and then more anxiety at our destination, because we still have to face the dragon and fly home again.
​
We do what we can to ease our pain. We avoid it. We drink, We medicate, we join fearful flyer groups. We might even read some books, or take a course. And yet our fear persists, and we are anything but "normal" at the airport or on the plane. (If we even get on the plane.)
​
What is the problem?? Why can other people just be so calm and unconcerned, and we are feeling like it's our last day on earth, because we are getting on a plane.
​
Stats don't help. We know them by heart. How many thousands of planes fly and land safely every day, and yet, we think OURS will be "the one".
​
And we can vividly imagine ours going down, but we can't focus on what's for dinner because of that.
​
The answer is probably not what you might expect.
​
We are normal. Our body is running a normal survival system, but it's actually in overdrive, and won't be shut down by "Just relax" or more plane facts. That's why I suffered with fear of flying for over 25 years.
​

Once I figured this out and started dealing with the problem (on the ground) things began to finally change, and I saw progress that actually stuck
​
We are often told by well meaning people (who do have our fear) just to learn more about the plane or just get on them until it becomes easy. That advice didn't work for me. There was a brick wall between me and my cure, and it was actually INSIDE my brain.
​
Now I know how it works, and I can make it work FOR me instead of against me. Now I fly without any fear at all, and get on the plane without a second thought. I don't suffer for weeks or months before my flight. And you don't have to either.
​
Is it easy? No, it wasn't for me, but neither is living this way.
​
Do you have to do it alone? Also no. Because one of the lynchpins to my recovery was doing it with others who were doing the same, and understood what I was trying to accomplish.

And if you start today, instead of trying to avoid the whole thing until you are forced to take another flight in full panic mode? The work you do on the ground from now until then will vastly improve your chances of becoming "normal" again in the future.
​
And then your only problem might be how bad the airline food was on your last flight.
Wouldn't that be nice?
​
​Come and let me show you what I learned, so you can learn it too. Your future is waiting for you on the other side of this fear.
​
​